In an Op-Ed for Time, Amber Rose poured out her heart like never seen before. She wrote on having to endure the judgement of others and constantly explaining herself. She revealed she has gotten over caring what people think and has chosen instead to just be herself. She wrote the piece a day after her tweet fight with Kanye. Read below…
“Ever since high school, Iโve been called a slut. All the boys were attracted to meโthat wasnโt my fault! Then, when I started getting famous, the shaming got even worse.
All these messed up stories came out about me, and I was like, โThatโs not true! Iโm not that kind of girl!โ But even things I had doneโthings a man would never be judged forโgot me lots of hate.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, Iโd go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people would say, โMan, sheโs such a ho. Sheโs out at restaurants with guys.โ Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say, โHeโs the man! Thatโs so cool.โ So when I went on a date, Iโm a whore, and when heโs piling girls in a car, heโs the man? Thereโs something wrong here.
It wasnโt just men saying these types of things. There were a lot of women saying hateful things to me. I was getting torn down constantly. But in the past year, Iโve just started not caring.
People would actually say things like, โWho would ever love you? You were a stripper. Why are you in relationships?โ And I used to feel like I had to explain that maybe it was because Iโm a good person.
But I realized that I canโt make everyone believe. And I canโt talk to everyone and tell them who I really am. Theyโre still going to have their own opinions. If you know me, you love me. If you donโt know me, you might love me, but you might notโand thatโs cool. And you know what? Now I sleep like a baby at night.
It wasnโt even that hard to stop caring what other people thought. I wasnโt married, and I didnโt have a boyfriend so I didnโt have to care about anyone elseโs feelings or protect anyoneโs heart. I thought, โThis is my life. This is about me. If you donโt like it, I donโt care. Iโm going to do anything and everything I want with my own life.โ
What Iโve realized is that, when you care too much, youโre not living at your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say, thatโs when you really start living. Itโs such an amazing feeling. Itโs about loving who you are, owning who you are and knowing that itโs O.K. to live your life how you want to live it. Weโre all human, which means weโre not all perfect. Itโs so cool to think that I might help women think about who they want to be and then encourage them to be that person with no remorse. I want to help women just be happy in their own skin.
So please: Before you judge someoneโespecially another womanโput yourself in her shoes and also look at your past. Thatโs what a lot of women fail to do. Theyโre so quick to call another girl names, but itโs like: You know what? There may have been a time where you looked back and said, โI probably shouldnโt have done that.โ Does that make you a ho? No, it makes you a human.”
