Controversial yet talented Nollywood actress, Halima Abubakar, has finally revealed her reasons for still being a single lady despite the fact that age is not quite on her side.
In a weekend chat with Encomium magazine, Halima talked about the ups and downs of her acting career, and more importantly, why she isn’t wearing a wedding ring yet.
Read excerpts of the interview below:
There has been a long standing question that youโre yet to give us a definite answer (cuts in)โฆ
What is the issue?
The issue of when youโre going to settle down?
Will I ask a man to marry me? Is it not when you see the man that you want to settle down with that you can decide to marry? You canโt just settle down with anybody because you need to marry. I donโt want to go into marriage and rush out of it. There is a lot of mistrust and we also have so many irresponsible men so to speak. There are lots and lots of liars among men out there. And if they meet a girl that really loves them, they wonโt know because they are used to lying.
So, they think any they meet is also a lair like them. Or if you omit one magnificent information about yourself, if they now get to know later in a negative way from another person, itโs another mistrust. The day you even say the truth and nothing but absolute truth, they wonโt believe you omitted something before it came out, and itโs not like itโs a dangerous thing. But just because you forgot to include the information when youโre chatting with them, it will now become a big problem. A sort of mistrust will develop from there. And when a man is monitoring you, definitely, there is no trust in that relationship, and nobody will want to be in a marriage where there is no trust.
Would you say it has been difficult finding the right man?
Really, I have not been in too many relationships, thatโs one. Number two, even if I say that, a lot of people will click on that and say itโs a lie. And I am a loyal person. I donโt like somebody who pretends to be what heโs not. I am not in a hurry the way people are in a hurry on my behalf.
Thatโs because at the end of the day, I am the one that will live with the man not them. And I wouldnโt want to cry to sleep. I wouldnโt want a man who will make me cry every day, instead of making me happy. Left to me, I will do everything to make him happy but is he really going to reciprocate that?
It has to be a balanced relationship but there is nothing like that.
Now, are you still hoping for a responsible man to come?
I am not hoping. Itโs going to happen when it will happen. I am not searching for a husband. So, donโt quote me on that. I am just going to tell you, and as usual I donโt talk about any relationship. I am just giving you a general insight of what life is about.
Not long ago, you travelled to the US, what was the purpose of the trip?
I was ill, and was admitted in the hospital. But my super mentor just advised me that I needed a rest and I should go and rest. And thatโs exactly what I went to do. But before I knew, as usual, bloggers had posted stories about my trip abroad.
Like?
I actually went to make an inquiry at New York Academy to see if I could do a course there. So, I was just there for a week and came back to continue my career. But before I came back, they had been posting that I went to get married to a US based lover.
And youโre sure you didnโt go there to meet a man?
For what? When you have a boyfriend, you have a boyfriend. It should be the guy and no one else. Letโs assume a boyfriend gives you the money to travel abroad, you will now go and meet another man there. That makes no sense. I am not in support of things like that because I know God is watching. And a day will come that I will pay heavily for that silly mistake. Not that I am saying I am perfect, I have many flaws but I am a human being, I canโt be perfect. But I am not in support of promiscuity.
