Founding member of Christian rock group ‘Everyday Sunday’, 35 year old
Trey Pearson, who is married with two children has come out as being
gay. In a recent letter to his fans he revealed that not everything is
as it seems. The Christian Rocker stunned fans across the world earlier
this week, admitting he’s been attracted to men since he was a teen.He wrote in a letter posted on the Religious News Service’s website on
May 31st, that he was always taught that sexuality was a matter of
“choice” and that he “never wanted to be gay”. “To make an extremely
long story short, I have come to be able to admit to myself, and to my
family, that I am gay.”
The letter reads:
“I was scared of what God would think and what all of these people I
loved would think about me; so it never was an option for me. I have
been suppressing these attractions and feelings since adolescence. I’ve
tried my whole life to be straight. I married a girl, and I even have
two beautiful little kids.
My daughter, Liv, is six and my son, Beckham, is two. I had always
romanticized the idea of falling in love with a woman; and having a
family had always been my dream. In many ways, that dream has come true.
But I have also come to realize a lot of time has passed in my life
pushing away, blocking out and not dealing with real feelings going on
inside of me.
I have tried not to be gay for more than 20 years of my life. I found so
much comfort as a teen in 1 Samuel 18-20 and the intimacy of Jonathan
and David. I thought and hoped that such male intimacy could fulfill
that void I felt in my desire for male companionship. I always thought
if I could find these intimate friendships, then that would be enough.”
Divulging intimate secrets from his wedding night, Pearson confesses he
had never “made out” with a girl before that night after his nuptials
nearly 8 years ago. As he tried to be heterosexual, he says he only
desired for intimacy in friendship that much more.
Pearson said he had “mixed feelings” about the changes that have
occurred in his life as a result, but is more contrite about his
upbringing.
He added:
“I was taught to handle this growing up, how much it has hurt me and the
unintentional pain I have brought Lauren, I wouldn’t have the
friendship I now have with her, and we wouldn’t have our two amazing,
beautiful children. But if I keep trying to push this down it will end
up hurting her even more.
I am never going to be able to change how I am, and no matter how
healthy our relationship becomes, it’s never going to change what I know
deep down: that I am gay. Lauren has been the most supportive,
understanding, loving and gracious person I could ever ask for, as I
have come to face this. And now I am trying to figure out how to
co-parent while being her friend, and how to raise our children.”
Since coming out to his fans, there seems to be an outpouring of support from both fans and the LGBT community.
Others showered Pearson with Bible verses, encouraging him that God
still loves him, no matter what, and explained it is not our place to
judge others.
While some called him a “hypocrite” and a “liar” for starting a family
on “false” pretenses, other Christians pointed out the need to show love
but not support of Pearson’s actions.
Chris Henderson said:
“The only thing that is terrible about this is he is married with 2
kids…Now he comes out…Thats just wrong.. and extremely hurtful to the
wife and child.”
Another Christian Bill Cosner said:
“But what are you planning to do about it? You know what God would have
you do. But will you follow Him, or will you follow your flesh?”
Peggy Geyer Walker Jehn said: